Should You Stay Together if You’re Unhappy? Family Studies Feb. 22, 2017 Hello there! If you are new here, you might want to subscribe to the RSS feed for updates on this topic.In the article I’m sharing with you (just click the blue link at the top) the author talks about his relationship with his wife at a time when his wife was unhappy and how they restored the relationship. He shares some great research showing that typically, unhappy marriages can become happy again over time. While this research is based solely on the relationship at the time of the birth of a new child and then ten years later when the child is eleven, other research has also shown that despite what we typically read, couples can be happy together. For an in-depth look at what factors need to be present for a couple to be “highly happy,” check out Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. Please know that if you are not currently feeling happy in your marriage, positive change can happen! And it doesn’t typically take big changes. Over and over again in my work with couples (and in my own marriage) I find that its the consistent little acts that make couples happy. Focus on the day-to-day consistency of loving your spouse and believing your spouse cares for you. It will make a big difference in your marriage! Discuss: What is one of the day-to-day little things your spouse does for you that makes you happy?