Should You Stay Together if You’re Unhappy?

Family Studies
Feb. 22, 2017

In the article I’m sharing with you (just click the blue link at the top) the author talks about his relationship with his wife at a time when his wife was unhappy and how they restored the relationship.

He shares some great research showing that typically, unhappy marriages can become happy again over time. While this research is based solely on the relationship at the time of the birth of a new child and then ten years later when the child is eleven, other research has also shown that despite what we typically read, couples can be happy together.

For an in-depth look at what factors need to be present for a couple to be “highly happy,” check out Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages.

Please know that if you are not currently feeling happy in your marriage, positive change can happen! And it doesn’t typically take big changes. Over and over again in my work with couples (and in my own marriage) I find that its the consistent little acts that make couples happy.

Focus on the day-to-day consistency of loving your spouse and believing your spouse cares for you. It will make a big difference in your marriage!

Discuss: What is one of the day-to-day little things your spouse does for you that makes you happy?

The Hitch Fix Podcast

Millennials for Marriage
Feb. 16, 2017

My friends over at Millennials for Marriage recently released their podcast. They interviewed me for episode number two where I talked to them about pornography and sexual addiction.

Here are a couple of the big points:

  1. Pornography use does not automatically mean that somebody is a sex addict.
  2. Sex addiction really does exist.
  3. There are resources available to you if you are struggling with pornography use (addictive or not).
  4. Even if your pornography use is not at an addictive level, there is no place for porn in the Christian marriage.

For more, check out the podcast and consider subscribing so you’ll know when they release more. Their mission is to equip millennials for marriage, but you don’t have to be a millennial to get great information from them. Listen to the podcast and hear their heart to understand why all married Christians should be concerned about millennials’ views of marriage.

Once you’ve listened to the podcast come back here to leave a comment.

Be blessed!

Breaking Bad Habits is Key to a Happy Marriage

Modernity - A Confidence Development Agency by Tamisha Ford
July 31, 2016

I just wanted to take a quick moment to share this article with you that I wrote over at Modernity. Just click on the link to go straight to the article. 

Tamisha Ford, the creator of Modernity, aims to empower women to have the confidence they desire. I’ve just decided to be a monthly contributor to her blog where I’ll discuss relationship health and total body wholeness.

This month’s article is extremely relevant because it describes why our relationships sometimes remain toxic. Take a glance at this article and see if there are changes you need to make in your marriage to get yourselves to a healthier place.

Then, leave a comment and let me know what you think. What will you do to begin breaking some bad relationship habits?

Time to set goals for your marriage!

Michael Hyatt's Website
01/01/10

Admittedly this is a much older post (dating back in 2010), but it is incredibly relevant for today and for your marriage.

Most of the time when I meet with couples, they admit that they have never set marriage goals. Now, you might not be able to make your goals public (as they could be deeply personal), but I believe the other steps completely apply here.

So, go ahead and set some goals for your marriage. State what date these goals will be met by and then determine what action you need to take daily to make them happen.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. What goals do you have for your marriage?