Feb. 16, 2017
Feb. 16, 2017
A Review of “A Lifelong Love” by Gary Thomas (Colorado Springs: David C Cook, 2014)
I recently finished reading Gary Thomas’ book, A Lifelong Love. The text at the bottom of the cover simply asks, “What if Marriage is About More Than Just Staying Together?”
One of the reasons I love this book is because Mr. Thomas beautifully expresses some of the same thoughts that I have. I’ve also written about marriage being about more than the feeling of being “in love” and believe with absolute certainty that feeling like you love your spouse or that you should stay committed to your marriage because of the Biblical principle to do so, simply isn’t enough to maintain a fulfilling marriage.
Before writing this book, Mr. Thomas also wrote the book Sacred Marriage, where he discussed the truth that marriage wasn’t designed to make us happy as much as it was to make us holy. And while I loved that book also, I felt that it was somewhat limited in not describing how we can also be happy in marriage. This newest book, A Lifelong Love, does a fantastic job of also showing that we can be happy – truly happy, in marriage when we practice the simple principle of loving well.
In chapter ten, Mr. Thomas talks about the importance of building true intimacy in marriage. He says, “…a good marriage isn’t something you find; it’s something you make, and you have to keep on making it.” I agree 100% with this statement. It isn’t always easy, but making your marriage good should definitely be a priority.
I encourage you to grab a copy of Mr. Thomas’ book, A Lifelong Love. I truly believe it will bless you and your marriage.
My prayer for you is that you do indeed have a lifelong love in your spouse!
Blessings on you and your marriage,
Sit on back, grab a cup of your favorite tea, and join me on this little trip down memory lane to see how an unnecessary and expensive teapot helped me and my hubby learn to communicate better.
First, a bit of background information. In 2012, Jacob and I decided to move from Virginia, where we were both finishing school, to Texas, so Jacob could get to know my family better. We did a little cost/benefit analysis for several situations and decided our best bet was to sell everything, save as much money as possible, and take the leap of faith that we’d have jobs soon after our move.
By the way, when I say sell ALL of our stuff, I really mean it. We even sold our cars. We took with us only what fit in a couple of carry-on bags, a couple of checked bags, and a few boxes of books and pictures that we mailed to my parent’s home before moving and hopped on a plane.
Remember the goal here – get rid of unnecessary stuff and save a lot of money to prepare for a big move.
My husband likes to joke that I stalked him and he saw me hiding in the bushes. Literally, that has NEVER happened. Metaphorically though, I probably go into hiding more often than I even realize.
I haven’t tried too hard to hide my vulnerabilities on this blog (I’ve written about it here, and here), but even so, many of them remain hidden. Vulnerability hurts. And who of us really wants to show our brokenness?
We all have some level of brokenness though. Even if you can’t think of any negative events in your past, your own sinful nature creates a cycle of “naked, afraid, and hiding.” We simply all fall into that cycle. We can even read the first instance of this as early as the third chapter of the Bible. Adam and Eve decided to eat of the forbidden fruit and suddenly they were made aware of their own brokenness and vulnerability. For the first time, they fully understood sinfulness and realized that they were unworthy to stand in the presence of a holy God, so they covered themselves with leaves and hid in the bushes.
While the message of Adam and Eve is certainly specifically about the fall of man, there is a lesson that goes even beyond the fall – when we’re aware of our vulnerabilities, we become fearful and want to hide. (more…)
I recently, within the last few months, met a pastor named Scott LaPierre, who is the author of Marriage God’s Way. Now when I say met, what I really mean is a virtual introduction. We’re both bloggers for the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association and through that common network we’ve become friends. He’s actually written on this blog on two occasions:
After reading his posts on my blog, I decided to read his book as well. While I’ve briefly reviewed it on Goodreads and Amazon, I wanted to give a slightly fuller review on my site. Also, one of my commenters will receive their own copy absolutely free. Sweet, right?!
Let me start by giving you a bit of an overall understanding of Pastor Scott’s view of marriage. From the book, you can easily see that he is complementarian in his view. Basically, the complementarian view of marriage holds that “God has created man and woman equal in their essential dignity and human personhood, but different and complementary in function with male headship in the home and in the church.”
You’ll see the complementarian view woven throughout the book. In fact, after one of his posts on my site, I had a reader express some upset feelings regarding this role. Don’t worry about that part too much. I’ve read this book, and whether you hold strictly to this view or not, I assure you that you’ll be challenged to improve your marriage and be encouraged that it’s possible. Here are a few examples why… (more…)